How Spending the Day like a 1950s Housewife helped me Take Back Control in a Post-Roe v. Wade World.

Shelley Karpaty
5 min readAug 13, 2022

Originally published in elephant journal

Photo by Austrian National Library on Unsplash

Waking on a Monday morning felt like a needle being dragged across a record, nails on a chalkboard, a hangover without heavy drinking the night before.

I pulled the blankets over my head and pressed snooze a few times, begging my REM sleep to ensure better dreams, but my mind had its way with me.

The adrenaline rush of sadness and grief pulled my body to its side as I recalled the recent ruling from the Supreme Court removing Roe v. Wade from federal protection. My feet plopped on the floor, like an injured zombie; I marched for the caffeine, ground the beans, and poured water into the pot.

Normally, I would sit and meditate, putting my oxygen mask on first before facing the day.

But what did I do instead? I planned my grocery list. I nested like a mother hen. Like a woman from the 1950s with her dutiful chores.

Being a GenXer, remnants of the 1950s traditional household still lingered as I was parented from that era. Growing up in the 70s and 80s, the latchkey kids were afforded the speed of processed foods, shows like “Happy Days,” reminiscing about the “happy” times of the 50s, and the message of Enjoli — ”I can bring home the bacon, fry it up in the pan…because I’m a woman.” Women could work outside the home, earn their own money, and have their own credit cards and autonomy in good ol’ America.

Not so fast, says the current American, anti-Democratic virus seeping further into the collective. This virus of hate is bulldozing its way into the collective trauma; stripping women of their autonomy over their own bodies. This is a clear strike to push women back in time, simply because of men’s fear and deep need for control. And fear is the virus exerting its control as if we were back in the Dark Ages.

We have been here before. Our ancestors have lived through times like these when “witch” burning was prevalent. We learned that while everyone was concerned about the witches, it was really the people doing the burning that we should have…

Shelley Karpaty

Meditation and Musings - navigating life as a human BEing connecting the dots of the Universe.